In general terms, a reconciliation means the reconquest of friendship, love and understanding between two or more parties that are in conflict. The word reconciliation is derived from the Latin “reconciliare” which means “to reconcile, to recover”. At first this term was used to refer to the link between God and men, which caused a transformation in the way men connected with each other.

Experts in conflictology consider that reconciliation represents a process in which the parties involved in the conflict begin a relationship that leads to a communication where faults are recognized and the bases for a supposed agreement are established.

Reconciliation rescues the capacities that come from forgiveness and understanding of the facts and reestablishing affective capacities.

This reconciliation is something that comes up a lot in relationships. It is common that in every relationship, fights, misunderstandings, moments of crisis and distancing arise. The important thing is that each of the parties reflect on what is happening, learn to forgive and seek reconciliation with the other. Reconciliation comes to demonstrate the ability of human beings to objectively appreciate a relationship, giving value to all the good and wonderful things that those involved have experienced.

When in a relationship the love that exists is true, the distance is something that produces restlessness and anguish. Reconciliation is to provide a second chance to those people who want peace, love and thus be able to live in communion with others.

In religious terms, reconciliation is one of the Catholic signs that seeks to return to the church everyone who, for certain reasons, has moved away from its doctrines. For the church, reconciliation is the sacrament of transformation, of forgiveness; a beautiful act of rapprochement with Jesus, which entails the return to the Father of the man who has distanced himself from Him.

According to the Catholic religion, reconciliation comprises 5 stages:

  • An examination of conscience: it is the summary that is internally made of the sins.
  • Repentance: is feeling guilty for the sins that were committed.
  • Contrition: it is about the intention to make up for everything that has been done in life in a negative way, for all the sins committed and not to repeat them.
  • Confession: in this stage, the sins are manifested, in front of a priest, who, according to Catholic doctrine, is the person with the power to absolve sins. Priests can never reveal what was said in confession.