Condolence


The term condolences is used as an expression that seeks to demonstrate the feeling of pain and grief that is produced by the death of a person. In general, according to customs, condolences are offered to the closest relatives, that is, to the sentimental partner, the parents and the children of the deceased. The use of this term is the result of placing an indirect object (me) after the verb (pesa) instead of placing it before, for example “me weighs”. This means that what the phrase itself is looking for is to indicate that the person who offers it regrets the death of that person.

In general, condolences must be given in person, this can be during the funeral acts of the deceased, at the mass in honor of the deceased, at the family home, however this may vary depending on the traditions in each region. There are cases where an individual cannot be present in any of these places, so it is necessary to offer condolences through a letter, thus demonstrating the respect and love that was had towards the deceased person. Even some time after death it is possible to offer condolences, which occurs when both people had not met after said death. There are some words that are used as synonyms for condolences, such is the case of, “I’m sorry”, “I accompany you in your pain”, “I am very sorry for the loss of your family member”, “I offer you my deepest condolences,”.

A very interesting fact is that during the celebration of the Catholic mass a prayer is said which has the name of condolences.

At present, with the emergence of social networks and the globalization of communication, a rather peculiar way of offering condolences has also emerged and it is virtually, however this method can be seen as a lack of respect on the part of those who receives them since it is not considered a correct way to do it, although sometimes this resource is used when the individual does not feel psychologically prepared to offer condolences in person.